Category Archives: Communication

Bullying – Eject It From The Game

Bullying - Eject It From The Game

 I am sure you have seen the stories in the news recently about the high school football team in Sayreville New Jersey that has had the rest of their season cancelled due to bullying. This is certainly not the first time a sports team has been in the news for bullying and I am sure that there is bullying happening in locker rooms and on fields all across the country.

What exactly is bullying?

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. Obviously this definition encompasses a lot of behaviors! What might this look like on a sports team?

  • Hazing or initiation of new team members.
  • Verbal or physical intimidation.
  • Threats of violence or physical harm.
  • Spreading rumors.
  • Purposely excluding someone from a group activity.
  • Physical harm.

Unfortunately, bullying isn’t just limited to team members. Coaches and other adults may also be directly or indirectly involved. Continue reading

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Why Your Teen Needs To Connect With Their Teachers

Why Your Teen Needs To Connect With Their Teachers

As someone who has spent many years working in schools, a couple of those as a teacher, I will tell you the shocking truth … teachers do have favorite students. There, I said it. That doesn’t mean that other students are treated poorly and the favorites get special treatment, but it can give them a leg up.

The “favorite” student isn’t necessarily the one who is the brightest, or the most serious … it’s most often the one who is friendly and memorable, the one who stops by to say hi. When you teach over 100 students a day (as most high school teachers do) it can be hard to remember each student on a personal level. Teachers want to build relationships with students so the ones who make an effort to connect stand out. Continue reading

8 Things to Consider When Creating Rules for Your Teen

“It’s not fair!” I’m sure you’ve heard that before.

8 Things to Consider When Creating Rules for Your Teen

Your teen wants more independence, you want them to be healthy and safe. Setting and enforcing limits with teens is a daunting and frustrating task. Teens are constantly pushing the limits and want to be treated like adults.

In my counseling practice I often hear complaints from teens about the rules …

“My parents treat me like I’m 5 years old!”
“My punishment makes no sense.”
“They won’t listen to my side of the story.”
“The rules just depend on how my parents are feeling that day.” Continue reading

Why Won’t My Teen Talk to Me?

Why Won't My Teen Talk to Me?

Do you ever wish your teen would unplug and talk with you? It can be incredibly frustrating when you want to learn about what’s going on in a young person’s life and you are met with the back of their cell phone … or the back of their head.

I am going to challenge you to take a different perspective Continue reading

We Need to Talk

Breaking up is hard to do

It seems like we spend a lot of time talking about how to make relationships work, but we don’t talk about how to end a relationship. Most people have many boy/girlfriends throughout their teen and young adult years. Obviously not all of these relationships are going to work out. Continue reading

No more drama

No More DramaFriend drama. None of us want it in our lives and yet sometimes it rears its ugly head. As an adult I like to think that I don’t have the kind of drama that runs rampant in high schools and middle schools, not so much. Continue reading