This year has been incredibly challenging for me … and it’s not even over yet! I could give you a laundry list of what’s happening in my life, but that’s not really the point, we all go through tough times. The point is, that as I reflect back on the year I realize that I still have so many things in my life to be grateful for. The real point is … practicing gratitude.
For starters, what is gratitude? Continue reading
We take about 22,000 breaths each day. What would happen if we took a few of those breaths on purpose?
As we move into late fall and have the holidays looming in front of us, it’s easy to get stressed out. Young people are also facing stressful situations this time of year. Most teens are looking at the end of 1st semester around Christmas time which means final exams and large projects. Continue reading
In part 1 of this post I shared ways your teen can deal with pre-competition anxiety. In part 2 we are going to talk about how your actions as a parent, coach or adult supporter can help ease your teen’s pre-competition anxiety.
Before the Competition
- Acknowledge how your teen is feeling. “Don’t worry everything will be fine” is not reassuring, it tells your teen that how they are feeling is not ok. Let them know that you understand they are worried (nervous, anxious, or scared) and that you are confident they will be able to handle it.
- Give them some space. Your teen knows what they need to do to prepare. Let them do their thing, they will ask if they need something from you.
- If you are feeling nervous or anxious before they compete, model good ways to stay calm. If your teen sees you freaking out it will feed their anxiety.
As I was working on this post I realized that the topic was much too broad for just one post so I have broken into two. In Part 1 I mainly focus on things that teens can do (with your support) to help themselves with pre-competition anxiety. In Part 2 I will discuss more about what you as a parent or coach can do to help. Of course, I’m sure I will revisit pre-competition anxiety, and related topics, in the future.
Many of us have experienced the rush of standing on the sideline just before a competition. The noise of the crowd, last minute instructions from your coach and the excitement from the team! It can be completely invigorating … or totally overwhelming.
Everyone feels some level of nervousness or anxiety before a game or performance. Anxiety is a totally normal feeling and in many cases is helpful for competition.
We have all experienced some physical symptoms of anxiety Continue reading
Posted in Life Skills, Sports
Tagged Anxiety, Competition, For Teens, Goals, Manage Emotions, Mindfulness, Practice, Resilience, Sports, Stress
We’ve all been there, playing in the big game, running for student government, trying out for the school play, waiting to be asked to the dance … and it doesn’t happen. You feel crushed, angry, embarrassed and disheartened. As adults who care about young people we hate to see them have difficult experiences, but disappointment is a part of life. Continue reading
Do you ever wish your teen would unplug and talk with you? It can be incredibly frustrating when you want to learn about what’s going on in a young person’s life and you are met with the back of their cell phone … or the back of their head.
I am going to challenge you to take a different perspective Continue reading
It seems like we spend a lot of time talking about how to make relationships work, but we don’t talk about how to end a relationship. Most people have many boy/girlfriends throughout their teen and young adult years. Obviously not all of these relationships are going to work out. Continue reading